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Why Do You Want to Get Married?

A friend asked this question last evening to me, “Why do you want to get married?”

I understand that in today’s society many people are skeptical about marriage. Many marriages end in divorce and some people are afraid of commitment involved in marriage. Some people even live together although they are not married. Anyway, I am not going to go deeper into that. After all, this is about my own reason on why I want to get married.

Well, the most obvious reason why I want to get married is because God Himself designed marriage when He created Adam and Eve. But before we see His design, let’s first establish the background of Genesis 1 and 2. Genesis 1 is the summary of six days creation whereas Genesis 2 is the detailed story of the sixth day which took place mostly in the Garden of Eden.

(I am young earth creationist and strictly anti evolution. Genesis is the true historical account. But, I will post about this issue next time.)

Let’s take a look at His design: It is interesting that God created everything good but He commented “It is not good for a man to be alone. I will make a helper comparable to him.” when He saw Adam being alone. Why was it not good for Adam to be alone?  I guess you can google it to find the reason. There are plenty websites out there which are trying to explain it. Nevertheless, as for me, by extension, it is not good for me to be alone because I am oblivious to my own weakness. I need a helper to point out my weakness and cover it.

Then the next question: why a girl then?

He then created Eve out of Adam. Seeing her, Adam declared “This is the bone of my bone and the flesh of my flesh.” Why did he declare such thing? I think he declared it out of joy because he saw God-sent helper for him. What kind of joy was it? I guess it was some kind of love or chemistry Adam had for Eve. While chemistry is not the only reason why people fall in love, it is nevertheless important. The truth is: God Himself is the Designer of this chemistry when He created Adam. No wonder I develop such a liking to a girl :P

God then married Adam and Eve and told them to be fruitful and multiply, in other words, to have as many kids as possible. Obviously, how can I obey God’s command if I am not married? :P

(Having said this, I am not talking about celibacy which is quite a specific case. I am talking about general case).

The same friend then asked me, “If you do not use the Bible?”

Well, let’s imagine this: the first horse can only carry 1 kg of load whereas the second horse 2 kg. If the two horses work together, how much load can they carry?  Actually, the answer is more than 3 kg(s).

In the marriage, there is unison between a man and woman in many areas. They complement each other in technical skill, interest, personalities, strength and others. In marriage, a man and a woman can have more strength than the sum of individual’s strength. Hence, they can accomplish more things for God and for people. Furthermore, they can effectively sharpen each other’s spirituality more than two close CG friends can do to each other.

(I get a glimpse of this strength magnification whenever I am chasing after a girl. Somehow, I can do unimaginable things without feeling fatigue :P)

To recap: so, why do I want to get married? Because God has designed marriage for Adam and Eve, and by extension, for me. I simply flow with Him =D in the following manner:

1.) I need someone to point out my weakness and cover it.

2.) God has designed me to have a chemistry to a girl

3.) To be fruitful and multiply and subdue the earth (read: to have plenty kids).

4.) I can accomplish more things for God with the help of that girl

By the way, this is my current thought. I may update this post in the future


Posted August 13, 2010 by Jefri Yue Fei 吴岳飞 in Uncategorized