Archive for January 20, 2011

Marriage Joke vs Marriage Vow

Such a contrast, diametrically opposed to each other.

Here are some jokes about marriage: (

1.) Marriage is not a word. It is a sentence–a life sentence.

2.) Marriage requires a man to prepare 4 types of “rings”:
     * The Engagement Ring
     * The Wedding Ring
     * The Suffe-Ring
     * The Endu-Ring

3.) Marriage is very much like a violin; after the sweet music is over, the strings are attached.

4.) Marriage is an institution in which a man loses his Bachelor’s Degree and the woman gets her Masters.

5.) Son:       Is it true? Dad, I heard that in ancient China, a man doesn’t know his wife until he marries.
      Father:  That happens everywhere, son, everywhere!


While indeed those jokes are fun, they got me thinking: why would these jokes come up in the first place? Maybe, not everyone ends up in a happy marriage. Selfishness and poor communication skill could be lacking in many couples, resulting in a high rate of divorce or people who choose to stay single.

In contrast, one can compare the jokes to marriage vow:

Vow – 1
I, [Name of Groom], take you, [Name of Bride] to be my wedded wife
to have and to hold from this day forward,
For better or worst,
For richer or poorer,
in sickness and in health,
to love and to cherish and to obey,
as long as we both live,
according to God’s holy ordinance;
and therefore I give you my love.

Vow – 2
With this ring I wed you
It is a token of the vows I have made to you
With it I will myself and my wordly goods endow to you
In the sight of God the Father, the Son and Holy Spirit.

God ordained marriage in the Garden of Eden. He meant it to be a happy union. It is not meant to cause any suffering for the couple. Divorce is never His plan to start with.

Seeing all these jokes, I had better prepare myself: to be a better communicator and negotiator.

With God, a happy marriage in the midst of human’s imperfection is possible.


Posted January 20, 2011 by Jefri Yue Fei 吴岳飞 in Uncategorized