Archive for July 4, 2011

Primary Reaction. Secondary Reaction

A lesson on relationship from Michelle-san, my godsister.
I realized I had done many wrong things in the past until she told me this.
I really thank God for sending her to me.

“Sometimes, you need to keep the comment to yourself. Otherwise, you will annoy people. Primary reaction is the one you can’t control, secondary reaction is the one you can.”

(moving her fingers close to my eyes then make a sound with them)

“The primary reaction is that you blink. Secondary reaction is that you ask “What is that for?” With enough practice, you can also control the primary reaction.”

Thank you so much, sister!
Very essential advice for me who many times speak before thinking of people’s feeling.

Posted July 4, 2011 by Jefri Yue Fei 吴岳飞 in Family, Thought