Archive for May 2013

Thanking God For All Things: Lesson in Rejection

Some time back, Pastor Phil Pringle preached from Eph 5:18-20.
In short, we should thank God for all things.
Indeed, there is another verse which says we should thank God in all things.
The latter is easier to do than the former.
It is really not easy to thank God for difficult experience we go through.
The key to do so is by understanding that God allows such an experience to happen so we’ll become more mature in Him.

One thing I am learning to thank God is for girls’ rejection.
I used to approach many girls, one girl at a time.
Yet, all of them ran away from me no matter what strategy I employed. It was really a painful experience.
Pain after pain, disappointment after disappointment, tear after tear (there are not many things which can make a guy cry, btw).
Initially I kept asking God, “WHY??!!” But now, I thank God for them. There are at least 3 lessons God has taught me.

First, maturity.
I used to be very naive about everyone. I used to think
– everybody could easily find his/her right life partner and they all would live happily ever after
– I had all it took to maintain a relationship
– everybody could easily adjust his/her personality and lifestyle to match his/her life partner.
All this naivety of mine makes me think things would be easy and smooth. Well, I couldn’t have been more wrong.
All the pain causes me to grow up, to realize that this is a harsh world (quite like survival of the fittest).
I thought I was ready for a relationship but now I realize I was nowhere near ready as I had not grown up at that time.
All this pain has shown the importance of being wise like a serpent but harmless like a dove.

Secondly, preparation for Miss Right.
Now I don’t know if God purposefully planned this whole pain (after all, a potter intentionally puts a clay into fire).
I think it is more like God allowing me to follow my naivety so I learn a lesson which otherwise I will not learn.
For instance, I liked a particular girl even though I didn’t know she was Miss Wrong.
Then whenever I prayed, I felt the Lord telling me to just try.
Because of God’s apparent permission, I then did deep research on her lifestyle, personality and character which otherwise I would never have done.
Eventually, even though she rejected me, I would still retain some memory of her lifestyle, personality and character.
In the future, when I get attached to Miss Right, I will thank God as I compare her with the previous target.
Maybe I’ll say something like, “Oh God, thank You the previous target ran away from me. She spent money like nobody’s business unlike my girlfriend.” :p

Third, to let go.
To let go is a very important skill I must learn, for example to let go of an offense (ie to forgive).
(Btw, I am not saying they hurt me when they rejected me. I didn’t need to forgive them as my own feeling hurt me, not them).
I thank God that because of girls’ rejection, I’ve learned to let go of my feeling and to look forward.
I stumbled upon a Fb post by Tinashe Maruta. I think he gave a very good analogy (sorry if it sounds very man-centered).
A man is like a sailor in a big ship on the ocean going to a certain destination.
Along the way, he meets a small ship with a woman in it.
He may try to invite and convince the woman to join him in his big ship to his destination.
However, after some time, if she says no, he should respect her decision.
The big ship should still go and continue with his journey to his destination. He should not stop or turn back or go to another destination.

There is still at least one serious impact from all this pain which I feel until now.
Yet, I believe God will heal me of this impact one day.
Thank God for those rejection!

A quote from Jiraiya from Naruto series which I find it true.
”Rejection makes men stronger.”

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Posted May 31, 2013 by Jefri Yue Fei 吴岳飞 in Thought

Pastor Phil’s Sermon 25, May, 2013: Parable of the Dog

It’s about the Lordship of Christ.

Acts 2:36.
There is no doubt Lord Jesus is the ultimate Ruler.
He can give eternal life to anyone He wills.
Just knowing God is the Lord isn’t enough.
Is He my Lord?
At salvation it is Lord Jesus dying for me. At lordship it’s me dying for Him.

God is the good God.
Phil 1:6. Eph 2:10.
It is better to always ask God for the direction. Even if His answer is no, it is for our good.
Let God sculpture our lives, our part is simply to pick up and carry the cross.
Like in the potter’s house, the clay has first to be purified (bad attitude is removed),
then God places us on a rotating wheel (regular basic Christian discipline).
Then God squeezes us (we’ll know who we really are under pressure).
God then lets us dry. Once, we are dry, God puts us in fire.
Isaiah 43:2.
God doesn’t exempt us from fire. God makes sure we are not burnt in fire.
Pain makes us grow in character, it teaches us many things.
I learn obedience through pain. God does more behind me than in front of me.
Lord Jesus learned obedience through suffering. He chose obedience in the Garden of Gethsemane.

You can download his sermon here:
http://theinkroom.com.sg/2013-the-parable-of-the-dog-25-may-2013.html

Posted May 30, 2013 by Jefri Yue Fei 吴岳飞 in Sermon

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Legend of Legaia Soundtrack

legend of mana

Another favorite childhood game. My brother was the first to play it times and again.
Then, it was my turn to play it on PS emulator.
Very good storyline and wonderful soundtrack.
Here you go:

Fighting boss!

What a bustling town!

Worldmap soundtrack!

Action! Go!

Monsterrrrr! Go!

Posted May 29, 2013 by Jefri Yue Fei 吴岳飞 in Video

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CG Meeting 23, May, 2013

A sermon preached during CG meeting last Thursday.

We are to become more and more like Christ.
We are like a walking Bible as we live out God in our lives.
Some unbelievers who refuse to come to church can see God in the lives of Christians.
We imitate Christ as we read the Bible and know Him more.
We ourselves will see Christ. The Holy Spirit reveals Christ to us in His word.
We should read the Bible because we love it.
Even if we can’t remember the verse, the Holy Spirit will remind it to us at the right time.
Our part is to read the Bible everyday.
Eventually, God will use us and make us more and more like His image. 2 Cor 3:18.

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Was supposed to celebrate a Cg member’s birthday.
However, since he did not come due to illness, we enjoyed the cake on his behalf Smile with tongue out

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Some sweets my CG leader brought. Well, good enough to prevent sleepiness Smile with tongue out Smile with tongue out Smile with tongue out

What I Will Do If CHC Leaders are Declared Guilty

A friend asked this question to me last year, “What will you do if the verdict says CHC leaders are guilty?”
At that time, I gave a very unconvincing answer. After all, that question caught me by surprise.
But now, in the light of recent trial, I have given much thought about this question.
And my answer is:

I will do as per normal. Nothing will change.
I will still be active in cell group, ministry and church service.
I will also still give tithe, offering and building fund.

Here are my 3 considerations:

Firstly, the details do not affect me.
I think I am still considered as visitor even though I have been active in CHC since 2005.
Since I have never been informed that I am considered as Ordinary Member, I can then conclude I am just considered as visitor.
As a normal member, I do not know many details regarding money transaction the church does.
I assume Executive Members know more details than I do.
In the first round of trial alone, already the court revealed plenty intricate details.
Since from day one I do not know them, it does not matter to me whether or not the court will reveal more of them.

Secondly, the end result matters to me the most.
Being in the research background, I am conditioned to get the final result.
While the detail is important, getting the end result is way more important.

(For example, a Physics professor is setting a new lab.
He will require his PhD students to align the laser system.
Most of the time, they have to decide which mirror, lens or screw to use and other details.
The supervisor is likely to be too busy to be bothered with such details.
His job is mainly to provide money.
His students may work overnight or may even sleep in the lab.
However, that won’t change the requirement of aligning the laser system.
Result, the perfectly aligned laser system, is the supervisor’s main concern and objective.)

Pastor Aries has announced the end result: no single cent is missing and, in fact, the church has earned the interest too.
To me, that is the most important thing I would like to know.
I seriously do not mind if my contribution to building fund goes all around the world.
As long as I know the end result which Pastor Aries has announced, I am more than happy even if I do not know the details.
Having said that, I understand the saying “The end does not justify the mean.”
However, this statement refers to morality and ethics issue, which I am not interested to discuss.

Thirdly, the bond investment in Xtron was a success.
Yes, it was a success as Pastor Aries has acknowledged.
No single cent was missing and the interest came too.
I really applaud Xtron for that.
As a comparison, 2 years ago I invested 10K in a bond from an insurance company.
I was told the interest rate was 7% per year.
2 years has passed. How is the bond doing? Kinda disappointing.
I still receive 7% interest. However, the bond value has dropped from 10K to around 8.3K now.
Have I made money? No. I’ve lost some money.
Man! Come to think of it….. I should have bought Xtron bond!!!!!!

The next round of trial will be held in August. It will be the defense’s turn.
Maybe I should attend it? I would like to pray for the leaders right there in the court room.

Dinner After Service 25, May, 2013

Hungry tummy! Where to go to satisfy empty tummy??
Cg people and I went to Changi Airport after church service.
The queue was very long at various food venues there.
Hence, left with no other choice, we went to KFC Open-mouthed smile

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Very sinful and yet difficult to resist Smile with tongue out

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It was my first time trying this chicken rice meal. Yummy! I shall stick to this whenever I go to KFC! Open-mouthed smile

Posted May 26, 2013 by Jefri Yue Fei 吴岳飞 in Cell Group, Food

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Foooooddddsss: Jefri’s Welfare Pack

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A friend passed this package to me last week. Hmm, what is inside???

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Some snack and tidbits!! Good to prevent sleepiness! Open-mouthed smile

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A label which shows her thoughtfulness.
Thank God for a friend like her! Open-mouthed smile Open-mouthed smile Open-mouthed smile
Anyway, anyone else would like to donate to me? Smile with tongue out Smile with tongue out Smile with tongue out

Posted May 25, 2013 by Jefri Yue Fei 吴岳飞 in Food, Photo of the Day