Book Review XXV: When God Writes Your Love Story


You continue to get your heart broken because you are holding the pen of your life and trying to write your own story.
I am the Author of true love. I am the Creator of romance. I know your heart’s every desire.
I want to script a beautiful tale just for you, but first you must give the pen to Me.
You must let Me become the center of your existence.
You must let Me have total control of your love life and every other area of your life as well.

– God speaking to Leslie –

I bought this book a few months ago during church anniversary sale. Hadn’t read this book until last December.
When I read the first few pages, I was skeptical.
What will happen if I surrender the pen to God? When will God show me the right one?
What if God matches me with someone whom i do not like? What if God wants me to stay single for the rest of my life?
It turns out that I am not the only who struggled with these questions. The authors themselves initially struggled.
Yet, in the end each of them said the following prayer even before they met each other.

"I’m willing, almighty God, to be single if that’s what You desire for me.
And, Lord, if You desire me to someday get married, then the next girl I date and give my heart to
will be the one You show me is to be my wife!"
– Eric –

"Lord, it’s so hard to give my love life to You. I desperately want to hold on to it and do things my way.
Yet, I know You are asking me to lay it in Your hands, to let You take charge of it. So, now, I give it to You.
No matter what You choose to do with this area of my life, even if it’s something I never would have chosen for myself,
I give it to You. Do with me what You will. I am Yours."

– Leslie –

Surrendering the pen to God is just the initial step. It doesn’t mean that we passively wait until God brings the right one.
We need to let God write our entire life story.
So, instead of inserting God in our planning, we need to let God be the center of our lives and build our lives around Him.
We can start doing so by surrendering our interests to God. Our interests may not be wrong in themselves.
However, we should be careful not let interest take God’s place.
More importantly, we should devote time and effort to know God more through meditating on His word, serving His people
and reaching out to the lost. As a result, we will experience His peace: we will truly delight in Him.

Before God shows us the right partner, He is more interested in molding our character.
There are a few things we can improve on ourselves before He does so:
– As singles, do we have a good intimacy with God? Is God truly the source of our happiness?
– As singles, do we have a good relationship with our parents and siblings?
If we don’t have it, most likely we will not have a happy marriage life in the future.
Ladies, the way you treat your fathers and brothers will be the way you treat your husbands.
Gentlemen, the way you treat your mothers and sisters will be the way you rreat your wives.
– As singles, do we have a good money and hygiene management?
Do we have some practical life skills such as doing housework, basic manners and respect?
– As singles, do we have good accountability with more spiritually mature Christians?
– As singles, do we compromise in sin, especially the area of sexuality?
God forbids premarital sex to protect us from heartache and to enable us to enjoy His highest and best.

Waiting and following God’s leading can be painful, especially when God seems to delay in bringing the right partner to us.
However, we should not snatch back the pen which we have surrendered to God.
We should keep believing that God is interested in this area of romance.
He went all the way to redeem us from sin through Lord Jesus’ blood. Certainly, He will not leave us high and dry in romance.

Some have compromised their sexual integrity.
We need to understand that God does not take any sin lightly, no matter how small it is.
At the same time, we need to understand that His forgiveness is available to us and we should stop sinning.

Letting God write our love story does not end on the wedding day.
Some say romance dies down a few years into marriage.
However, when God writes our lives story, romance will never fade away through ups and downs of marriage life.

What do we do if we are attracted to an opposite gender? Following are the steps recommended by Eric:
– Don’t be in a hurry.
God is still molding your character and that person’s. If that person isn’t meant for us, God will simply close the door.
– Pray about it.
It isn’t just a casual bedtime prayer. We should really seek God’s will.
– Ask counsel from spiritually more mature Christians.
They can impart some divine wisdom to us.
– Ladies should let the gentlemen do the chasing.
That way, the gentlemen will learn to treasure the ladies.
As for the gentlemen, they should pace their chasing wisely. Otherwise, they will scare the ladies away.

In closing, how do we know if that person is Mr. or Miss Right?
"Ask God," Leslie suggested.
After all, He is the One who writes our love story.

(You can purchase this book at The Ink Room)

Posted February 22, 2015 by Jefri Yue Fei 吴岳飞 in Book Review

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