Gossip and Concern

“A gossip goes around telling secrets, so don’t hang around with chatterers”
-Proverb 20:19, NLT-

Indeed,  as much as possible, confidential matter, especially personal matter, should be kept confidential.
Whenever a friend shares personal struggle with us, we should keep it confidential.
If we cannot solve such personal issues, we should direct that friend to a wiser person, e.g. elder of the church.
As much as possible, we should not immediately tell the elder of a friend’s struggle.
This is to avoid misunderstanding.

A true story which I saw before.
A had misunderstanding with B. B had no idea on A’s feeling. C knew it.
A told C to keep it secret.
What did C do? C told B about A’s feeling.
In the end, it was a mess among A, B and C.
What should C have done? C should have encouraged A to communicate A’s feeling directly to B.

Perhaps another way to avoid gossip is by hiding identity.
Suppose a friend confides with me his personal struggle.
I tell him to talk to a pastor. Yet, he refuses.
What do I do?
I can simply approach a pastor and ask a question, “Let’s say someone has this issue, what can this person do to solve it?”
After hearing pastor’s reply, I can tell my friend the solution.

Let’s be professional, shall we?
When it is a confidential matter, let’s keep it confidential.
Don’t be gossipers.


Posted January 5, 2016 by Jefri Yue Fei 吴岳飞 in Thought, Verse of the Day

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