Resolving Dispute

“Just because you’ve seen something, don’t be in a hurry to go to court.
For what will you do in the end if your neighbor deals you a shameful defeat?”
– Proverb 25:8 (NLT) –

A practical advice on resolving dispute.
Some dispute happen between Christians and non-Christians.
For now, let’s talk about dispute which happen between Christians and Christians.

It is better to settle it in private.
Bringing to court means the dispute will go public.
It is a risky business as defeat in court means public humiliation.

In addition, it may be a bad testimony as well if Christians sue other Christians in court.
We are called to judge angels (1 Cor 6:3).
Surely we are able to settle disputes among ourselves without going to court.

Some biblical steps on how to resolve dispute:

1. In case the dispute is due to trivia reason, can we simply overlook it?
Can we just let it slide?
”Sensible people control their temper; they earn respect by overlooking wrongs,” (Proverb 19:11, NLT)

2. If it is really not possible to overlook it, can we forgive the other party?
Just as the Heavenly Father forgives us, shouldn’t we also forgive others?

3. Can we solve the dispute in peace? Just between us and the other party without involving the third party?
”This is what you do if one of your brothers or sisters sins against you: go to him, in private, and tell him just what you perceive the wrong to be. If he listens to you, you’ve won a brother.” (Matt 18:15, The Voice)

4. If we really need to involve the third party, can we ask help from a church elder or pastor to be the judge?
”I say this to shame you. Is it possible that there is nobody among you wise enough to judge a dispute between believers?” (1 Cor 6:5, NIV)

5. If we still cannot settle the dispute, it is possible also to bring more third party to help clearing the dispute.
”If the person still refuses to listen, take your case to the church.” (Matt 18:17, NLT)

And finally, if it is compulsory to bring the dispute to court, we need to really consider if we can win the case.
Otherwise, we will suffer shameful defeat.


Posted July 13, 2016 by Jefri Yue Fei 吴岳飞 in Verse of the Day

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