Archive for October 19, 2016

Controlling Anger

"Be angry, and do not sin”: do not let the sun go down on your wrath.
Ephesians 4:6

Anger is natural emotion. In itself it is not a  sin
It is a response to what we perceive to be an error or injustice.
God Himself shows His anger in the Old and the New Testament.
-He was angry during census done by king David (2 Sam 24)
-His wrath is poured upon ungodliness (Romans 1:18)
-There are 7 bowls of His wrath (Revelation 16)

God is slow to anger (Psalm 103:8).
Hence, by the grace of God, we ourselves must be slow to anger too.

While we are slowing down to anger, probably it is best if we get all the fact correct too.
Many times, we assume too much in our mind.
We form impression based on we think others are saying rather than what they are really saying.
Therefore, we should clarify the fact first.
Sometimes, after clarifying the fact, we realize our assumption of injustice is wrong.
Hence, we won’t need to be angry.
However, after getting all the fact correct and when the patience has run out, what should we do?

Probably the following guideline can help.

1. Is it just/biblical cause to be angry?
God is angry upon ungodliness. It is the righteous anger.
What is the reason of our anger?
Are we angry because someone else tramples upon our pride?
Or, are we angry when we see someone (including ourselves) disobeying the word of God?

2. What is the proper time and place and manner to channel our anger?
Even if it is righteous anger, it is clearly unwise to express it randomly.
We need to pray that the Holy Spirit will guide us on how to properly channel our anger.

3. Let it go and forgive-and-forget
The verse above teaches us: do not let the sun go down on your wrath
After some time, we should let the anger go.
We should not hold on to anger longer than necessary.

Anger is like a fire. We feel hot in the inside when we are angry.
If we hold it longer than necessary, it will just backfire at us, turning us into a bitter person.
Finally, we need to forgive and forget as well to give closure to it all.

With the help from God, let’s control our anger, shall we? 

Posted October 19, 2016 by Jefri Yue Fei 吴岳飞 in Verse of the Day