Wounds of a Friend

Faithful are the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.
Proverb 27:6

None of us is perfect.
As much as possible, we should encourage each other to improve.
We should help each other becoming a better person by tackling this imperfection.
After all, iron sharpens iron; we sharpen one another.
Sometimes, as sincere friends, we may need to "wound" friends who refuse to grow up.
Probably we do it through a kind of tough advice.
Love has to be tough, after all.

How should we give tough advice? Probably the following guideline can help.
– Are we struggling with the same imperfection? If we are, then we should deal with our own imperfection first. If we cannot remove the plank in our eyes, clearly we should not advise others. (Matt 7:5)
– Can we find out the underlying reason behind that apparent bad habit of others? This is to ensure we get our fact and assumption correct.
– After prayer, we may go ahead and give that tough advice in respectful manner.

How should we receive tough advice? Probably the following guideline can help
– In a respectful manner, we can listen to it and try to understand the reason behind that advice
– We can pray and think about it.
– If the advice is inapplicable to us, we can ignore it.
– If the advice is applicable to us, we should change and thank that person.

In giving or receiving tough advice, as much as possible, we should meet in person.
Sometimes body language communicates more than words.

Let us grow together to become better people.


Posted November 21, 2016 by Jefri Yue Fei 吴岳飞 in Verse of the Day

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